One of the things I immensely miss about Pakistan is a traditional Pakistani desi wedding. I am sure most of expatriate women can relate to this feeling. Dholki, mayon-mehndi, scrumptious desi cuisine, all fun shaadi related customs and above all getting ready for the events in traditional eastern wear are some vital elements. It is indeed a bonus if we get to attend a shaadi during our Pakistan trip and that too in family.
I was super excited to learn about my baby cousin’s wedding during my last trip to Pakistan. A perfect opportunity to fulfill “dil key armaan”.
What I wore during the wedding and how I planned my outfits? Sharing my modest desi wedding wear look-book with some inspiration to utilize your existing wardrobe and doll-up in a budget too.
Since I was aiming for budget friendly solutions, I decided to utilize my existing closet options. I chose to wear my own Mayo’n dress for this event. It is red & yellow combination chataa-patti choridaar pajama chiffon banarsi a-line single kali-dar. I wrapped the duppatta as hijab and added a red gota embellished duppatta to enhance, which I btw borrowed from my sister in-law. I opted for Khussa with choridar and traditional chand bali as jewellery to complete my look.
Chikankari has my heart. I couldn’t resist to add this to my formal collection when I saw this gorgeous off-white chikankari mirror work & rose-gold tanka, formal shirt piece at an amazing discount. Initially I planned to wear this on Valima, however, some other idea popped-up in mind for that event dress choice.
I paired this beautiful chikankari mirror work shirt with an emerald green Chunri banarsi duppatta, which was gifted to me years ago by my in-laws and I never got a chance to wear it. For some additional embellishments on the shirt, got some glass seed beads (پوت کے موتی) work through a local embroidery shop. Simply added gota around the edges of duppatta in matching rose-gold color and kaamdani work to add more detail and give it a heavier look. I wore a silk hijab in contrasting shade of gold, which pretty much stood out on off-white.
For jewellery I really wanted a jaipur style kundan maala necklace. Online options were not-so-economical at all. Luckily I found an amazing custom-made option at Tariq Centre – Karachi and that too in my desired price range. I wanted maala a little longer than the existing size, so that it would be visible even with hijab. The shop owner suggested some changes and did them perfectly according to my description. Earrings were from my existing jewellery collection.
Color-blocking was the key idea to style this main event outfit. I wanted a heavy formal for baarat, therefore I thought to utilize my valima bridal duppatta. Sadly the most expensive clothes of our lives aka wedding dresses generally lie idle in our closets. What could have been a better way to make use of them. It was a fawn colored bridal and I planned to incorporate some trendy color hence only used duppatta.
To give it a fresh look I made a new stone blue maysoori straight, hand-embroidered shirt with traditional work from a local embroidery shop in similar pattern and coordinating color palette. Paired these with an old pine green jamawaar gharara which has a gota detailing. Navy blue viscose hijab and the Indian jewellery piece added more charm. Can you guess which shoe did I wear? Yes, my comfy sketchers slip-on 🙂
Fashion trends keep changing. From longer to shorter lengths, from wide flow-y hems to straight cut etc. When it comes to length this is actually a time when we can wear any kind of length ranging from long to medium to short, as almost everything seems to be trending.
My wedding day bridal outfit is my all time favorite, embroidery detail to color combo everything is just love. So for the final event I decided to wear my favorite piece.
Giving it a lesser-bridal-dress look, I ditched the lehnga and paired with a choridaar pajama (another forever favorite) in a coordinating color. Silk hijab in a matching silver shade, silver clutch (part of my wedding outfit) high heels and classic chand baalis complimented the look.
5 Tips to modestly style eastern wedding wear:
Here are few tips to help you create a wedding look on a budget.
1. Pair a lesser formal solid contrast color piece with your existing heavy formal outfit.
2. If you observe carefully, you will find some mix & match options in your existing closet. A contrast combination or monochrome palette can serve the purpose.
3. Aim to create a look by mixing & matching already available option in your wardrobe, with a fresh piece addition and Voila!!
4. When paired rightly, accessories can make a noticeable difference.
5. Select one item from your heavy formal dress, e.g. a shirt or a duppatta and pair it with something less formal and heavy earrings.
Hope you found the above tips helpful. Leave in comments if you would like to add some more tips.